Love is interesting
Love is an interesting thing to think about, because - no, I don't have many first hand expereinces with it. And yes, I question the integrity and reality of my emotions whenever I think I am feeling it.
However, one thing is consistent across my expereinces and what I have witnessed. Romanticisation. Verbatum from oxford
'deal with or describe in an idealized or unrealistic fashion; make (something) seem better or more appealing than it really is'
Ergo to idealise someone; to daydream so much you forget the real them. Often this could be seen to an extreme where it impacts how you interact with that person as if they were someone completely different.
I started writing this when the song 'Loved you, not' by Phemiec came on my playlist. The song goes through a phase of describing essentially the perfect boy. However the song does not state any cons or not perfect things about the hypothetical.
There are sections of the song that are disheartening and negative. However these are clearly directed at the author not at the hypothetical boy.
I abstract things a lot. My frustration with this currently stems from how I dislike the way the above paragraph becomes abstract when it feels like an abrupt change from the previous paragraphs. Im not going to change it - It's canon that I write in pen.
I feel obliged to relate the feeling of abstractness to how idealising someone is sort of abstract to how people are - as it often ignores or downplays flaws. But I am assuming you have already created that link.