Why do we let duress be a performance?
I want to refuse that these kinds of people are competent enough to orchestrate their actions for the purpose of getting a reaction out of me. However I see it far more likely that they are competent enough to understand the situation and just have a horribly positioned moral line, a selfish one.
They endanger others and treat it as a performance, a spectacle to engage the ignorance of those around them for the 30 seconds that they can keep their brain focused on one thing.
In a way - when I word it like I have above - it is very much akin to how people bullied me back in primary school. They endangered others - or me, through violence - for the spectacle of others - to make their friends laugh.
And they all do it consistently.
I suppose this just proves that bullying is far more nuanced than anyone treats it.
But it feels like an entirely different thing when their actions also endanger them - a rudimentary example would be taking on a fight you can not win. I suppose it isn't really.
I often want to give these people a piece of their own medicine. I don't, I know better than to waste time and energy for them to still achieve their goal.
What was I talking about? oh, duress; the use of threats or violence in order to coerce someone into doing something against their will or better judgement.
Interesting word. I believe I will now proceed to overuse the word in my daily life.
I also think that i have used duress before. Not actively but in response to people bullying me. someone is repeatedly pissing me off. all it takes is me smiling and "I'm going to punch you in the face now" as I walk towards them and they run off like a coward.... It's not actually fun watching people be scared of you. When this happens it usually only takes a second for me to analyse the situation and leave.
I would imagine it is not uncommon for some people to entertain or imagine a really bad thing to do even if they want to do it so they can realise how stupid it is an get ahold of their emotions before they make a mistake. I do it a lot.
I completely forget how I thought Standing up for yourself fit into this but I wrote about it anyway.